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Leadership for the sensitive

and the shy

If you’re here, chances are you’re sensitive (perhaps even highly sensitive), and you experience it more as a handicap or a weakness than anything else.

But rest assured that your sensitivity is your greatest strength! And the world desperately needs your sensitive leadership.

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How to become a leader when you are sensitive?

I know what it is like:

of wanting to be too nice, of not wanting to displease, or of wanting to please, even if it means playing a role and not showing who you really are.
not daring to disturb others by asserting what is important to you. And therefore to sacrifice parts of yourself.
not to make demands of others, for fear that a conflict will arise, especially when you know that the opposite person loses his/her temper quite easily.

However, sometimes life strongly invites us or even forces us to change.

Perhaps you are an expert who has just been promoted to manager, and who has been asked to learn how to delegate?
Perhaps you want to be more comfortable during your presentations in public?
Maybe you want to improve your leadership style? You feel that you are too nice and that you are not really assertive, and at the same time, you do not want to embody too directive/autocratic leadership. You may be a little lost on which path to take.
Perhaps you are exhausted or even close to burnout. You can’t refuse the requests you receive, even though you are already overloaded.

All of these issues have in common that you are not really listening to yourself, your emotions and/or your needs. However, to be a good leader, it is important to be exemplary. And that starts with knowing how to take care of yourself.
Do you think you make others want to follow your direction when you are exhausted? irritable? overloaded? too shy?

I imagine that:

you are a shy or reserved person: you do not dare to speak in meetings, you do not dare to give your opinion, you do not really dare to take your place. You want to go unnoticed instead. Maybe you don’t like presenting in public.
and/or you do not dare to disturb or disappoint others.
and/or you are always ready to help others, and you forget to take care of your needs: perhaps you do not have time to take breaks, go to the bathroom, or drink a glass of water during your work day.
and/or you are an expert and you like to do things for others, so that they are done well, and therefore, delegating is rather something difficult for you to consider.
and/or you have difficulty knowing what is really important to you, and being clear about your priorities.
and/or you can’t say no to others: you are probably overloaded with requests, and most certainly tired or even exhausted.
and/or you don’t dare say when you don’t know. You think you always have to have the answer to everything.
and/or sometimes the pressure cooker explodes, and you lose your temper with someone and bitterly regret it afterwards.
and/or you are sometimes too critical of yourself.
and/or you always try to find solutions to all of your colleagues’ problems.
and/or you avoid conflicts.

➡ To be a good leader with others, you must start by being a good leader with yourself. It is particularly important to be able to follow your own inner guidance.

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“This coaching helped me a lot to progress towards my goals. […]

I dare more to be visible and assert my leadership, fully assuming my personality.»

Young woman wishing to remain anonymous,
whose coaching topic was to be more
comfortable giving presentations in public
(and no, that’s not her in the photo :-))